The Price of Sex

In sexonomics, men pay the price while women collect the price. But what is this price that we have been discussing? How is it calculated, what are its components?

Purists gasp at the idea that sex can be viewed as a commodity that can be traded for a price. It is important to understand though that sexonomists don't necessarily view the price of sex in terms of dollars and cents. Certainly in the case of a prostitute and her john, price is purely financial - the john pays the prostitute $100 (give or take) for supplying him with sex.

But price can also include non-financial components. Women may want a man who is not only rich but also powerful, confident, good-looking, fun, intellegent, talented, successful, honest, kind, generous, possessed of a good sense of humour, athletic, sensitive, original, or educated. Any man may provide these qualities as part of his offer price. If a women is happy with the amount put forward, she'll choose to supply.

One component of price is time. Take Frank. By spending time with Linda, a girl he likes, he is providing her with something she enjoys; his presence. If Linda is satisfied with the gift of time he has presented, then she may supply him with sex. By paying a price Frank gets what he desires.

Emotional commitment is another price a man may have to pay to get sex. A woman enjoys closeness. A man may find himself paying the price of emotional support in order to get sex.

Compliments are another way to pay the price of getting sex. Men quickly learn that women like compliments, and that one or two well timed sentences go as far as emotional commitment or time in terms of satisfying the price a women is asking for.

Paying for a drink, buying dinner, or getting a present for a girl is a standard price of getting sex. These are all financial components of sex - the transfer of money to a girl and reciprocation of sex for the guy. Girls sometimes express surprise when a guy who has bought her a drink at a bar expects to have sex with her. Any girl who acts this way is innocent to the sexonomic aspects of what has transpired - the transfer of money for expected sex.

To summarize up till now, a man satisfies a woman's asking price using many different methods, depending on his capabilities and limits, and her desires. The chart below illustrates this.

Remember, both men and women strive to attain entirely different ideals - women want the highest price for supplying sex, men want to get the lowest price for sex, ideally free. This is why we find each other so confusing; we are each on opposite sides of the economic chart, striving for entirely different goals. One wants to exist at the bottom of the chart along the horizontal axis, the other wants to exist at the top of the chart.

A large component of male - female relationships are taken up by haggling as men try to get the lowest price they can (ie. convince women to move down in price), while women try to get the highest price (ie. convince men to pay more in price). Men aren't from Mars and women aren't from Venus. No, men are from the bottom of the chart, women from the top.

Next we will discuss equilibrium, when a man and a woman hook up.